Comments on: Joy From Loss – The Grieving Side of Adoption http://www.americanmamacita.com/blog/joy-from-loss-the-grieving-side-of-adoption/ "Gringa" by birth | Latina by adoption | La Vida "Spangles" Sat, 14 Jan 2012 02:19:53 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.3 By: Margie http://www.americanmamacita.com/blog/joy-from-loss-the-grieving-side-of-adoption/comment-page-1/#comment-6324 Margie Thu, 07 Jul 2011 20:50:37 +0000 http://www.americanmamacita.com/blog/?p=661#comment-6324 For the first three months after joining our family, our then six-month-old son rarely smiled. When I look back at the gazillions of photos we took of him, there is an almost haunted look in his eyes, searching everywhere for something he couldn't find. I will never forget that, and am pulled up short every time I look at those pictures. Lovely post. For the first three months after joining our family, our then six-month-old son rarely smiled. When I look back at the gazillions of photos we took of him, there is an almost haunted look in his eyes, searching everywhere for something he couldn’t find. I will never forget that, and am pulled up short every time I look at those pictures.

Lovely post.

]]> By: Von http://www.americanmamacita.com/blog/joy-from-loss-the-grieving-side-of-adoption/comment-page-1/#comment-3182 Von Thu, 07 Oct 2010 06:15:58 +0000 http://www.americanmamacita.com/blog/?p=661#comment-3182 Adoption seems to be so rarely seen from the adoptees' point of view.The losses for them are not little and they won't forget and nothing will ever make it right.You just have to do the very best you can and let that search be their own when the time comes.So many adopters want to take over.It is the adoptees' story, if they want to share it you've done well. Great post! Adoption seems to be so rarely seen from the adoptees’ point of view.The losses for them are not little and they won’t forget and nothing will ever make it right.You just have to do the very best you can and let that search be their own when the time comes.So many adopters want to take over.It is the adoptees’ story, if they want to share it you’ve done well.
Great post!

]]> By: Kim http://www.americanmamacita.com/blog/joy-from-loss-the-grieving-side-of-adoption/comment-page-1/#comment-1262 Kim Fri, 29 Jan 2010 03:55:47 +0000 http://www.americanmamacita.com/blog/?p=661#comment-1262 @Lauren - Yes, I do the same thing, drawing the parallel between how I feel about the boys and how much greater (and more perfect) God's love is for me. H & J have given me a real gift in that area. And living in that truth does provide perspective for how I should then treat the boys ... knowing that despite my reminders that I'm a sinner like they are, they WILL probably get some of their ideas of what God's like from what Fred and I are like. Yikes! No pressure! @Mary - Thanks! And feel free to bring the girls over to ask the boys about their adoption any time. They think K and T are great and will be happy to answer questions, I'm sure. @Lauren – Yes, I do the same thing, drawing the parallel between how I feel about the boys and how much greater (and more perfect) God’s love is for me. H & J have given me a real gift in that area. And living in that truth does provide perspective for how I should then treat the boys … knowing that despite my reminders that I’m a sinner like they are, they WILL probably get some of their ideas of what God’s like from what Fred and I are like. Yikes! No pressure!

@Mary – Thanks! And feel free to bring the girls over to ask the boys about their adoption any time. They think K and T are great and will be happy to answer questions, I’m sure.

]]> By: Mary@notbefore7 http://www.americanmamacita.com/blog/joy-from-loss-the-grieving-side-of-adoption/comment-page-1/#comment-1246 Mary@notbefore7 Wed, 27 Jan 2010 19:29:53 +0000 http://www.americanmamacita.com/blog/?p=661#comment-1246 wow. Never thought about it from that angle at such a level. Well written and spoken. With out a doubt they are secure in your love for them, but yes, you can never "erase" or take away what was lost. (not that you would even try to) It is a part of them. You are an amazing Mama! wow. Never thought about it from that angle at such a level.

Well written and spoken. With out a doubt they are secure in your love for them, but yes, you can never “erase” or take away what was lost. (not that you would even try to) It is a part of them.

You are an amazing Mama!

]]> By: Lauren http://www.americanmamacita.com/blog/joy-from-loss-the-grieving-side-of-adoption/comment-page-1/#comment-1228 Lauren Wed, 27 Jan 2010 04:09:57 +0000 http://www.americanmamacita.com/blog/?p=661#comment-1228 I love how you consistently explore life's experiences from your sons' perspectives...that you acknowledge their pain, as well as your joy. Your post also made me think of how God feels about us as his children...the pain and baggage we bring with us, the joy and familiarity we eventually enjoy. I love how you consistently explore life’s experiences from your sons’ perspectives…that you acknowledge their pain, as well as your joy. Your post also made me think of how God feels about us as his children…the pain and baggage we bring with us, the joy and familiarity we eventually enjoy.

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