Great Post from “Our Little Tongginator”
Posted by KimMay 3
My friend Mary sent me this link, and I liked the post so well I want to share it. I don’t know if this philosophy toward adoption is new or if I’m just finding more people who agree with it:
“God and Adoption” – by Tonggu Momma
Please DO read it. But I’ll summarize a bit here. Basically, she says that adoption is a redemptive response to a tragic event (that being that a child could not have been or just was not raised by loving biological parents).
There are many adoptive parents who do agree with T.M.’s philosophy. I am one of them. But there are also a bunch who “forget” the deep loss to the child that is requisite for an adoption even to happen. In their desire to have a child, they view it as what was simply “meant to be.” And I agree with T.M. that that does a disservice to our kids.
So no more from me – go read her post!
-Kim
2 comments
Comment by Tio Chris on May 4, 2010 at 9:51 pm
I love this post, Kim.
I have been literally living on Romans 8:28 the past few days, and I would dare say that T.M. provided a completely honest and amazing expression of it that REALLY hit me, as a pending adoptee. And as an adult, it is interesting to BE adopted and look back on that redemption from this side of things as well.
God’s plan has been, is, and always will be in the works. God led my grandfather to be a pastor, who instilled the love of Christ in my mom as a child, and although she has been shaky in her faith through her life, God planted the RIGHT seeds in her heart to do his will through her when I unexpectedly came along to create a muddy situation in her life (on the cusp of retirement, boom, here comes her first unexpected grandchild with a mother incapable of responsibly doing anything, let alone raising a child).
I know God used the seeds of faith planted in her to make the decision to raise me – and rescue me from a dangerous situation (drugs, alchohol, abuse, etc.). God *knew* all along how He would use my mom. He used her to redeem me not only from EARTHLY circumstances and provide me a stable and loving home, but also to ultimately redeem me as a sinner. My mom introduced me to God, and ultimately to my Savior.
My situation is a bit weird, granted, since I wasn’t technically adopted, but then I think about how God has used my ACTUAL adoption these past few months to reinforce that redemption in my heart – and to in many ways redeem me AGAIN from the terrible, dark, and dangerous place my life was in the past few years. In some ways, God used my parents and adoption to redeem me twice! And guess what? It has made my eternal redemption, which granted was already secured with God, secure finally in my own heart. And that is amazing grace, right there.
Thank you for sharing this Kim.. it really hit home.
Comment by Tio Chris on May 4, 2010 at 10:09 pm
And at the risk of adding to my novel above (my apologies, Kim) – I just wanted to add one thing: Who knows what God might have done if the church had in some way ministered differently to my birth-mother’s life or her generation. If the church had done more for sexually and drug crazed teens of the 60s and 70s – who knows. I’m sure they tried. But God didn’t need the church to be perfect to continue redeeming – He always works within the context of sin. God’s plan involved an act of mercy and compassion in my parents that He put in them over their lifetime that they never knew was coming. And He did that, I believe, to save me. And through me, who knows who else?