See also Part I: God, Destiny and Adoption: Were Our Kids Meant to Be Lost?
One of the biggest objections to international adoption that we run into is the allegation (sometimes proven) of corruption in “the adoption system.” That children have been and are being “exported” like goods. There are documented cases of bribery of birth moms, kidnapping, and at the very least, an advantage of the privileged over the poor, vulnerable and under-represented… the convincing of (usually single) mothers that someone else is more capable (even “worthy”) of parenting their children.
It’s not unique to international adoption. Many of the same issues arise in debates over domestic (particularly infant) adoption as well. I was reading a very raw an honest post by a first-mom last night that reflects the pain of her loss – and a very definite stance against adoption altogether.
Those objectors are people with stories, so we can’t just dismiss their thoughts and feelings.
As Christians, how do we face the question of whether our children could have been placed with us through unethical means?
I wish I could find a font to emphasize just how seriously we take that question. Read the rest of this entry